tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post7604546486942217959..comments2024-03-05T20:02:45.776-05:00Comments on Southern Fried Children: A Letter to My White SonKellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-76509356655042140892012-04-06T16:34:29.379-04:002012-04-06T16:34:29.379-04:00That would be fun! We love long talks and actually...That would be fun! We love long talks and actually don't know how to have short ones...kind of socially - um, well dorky. Though she generally has better social graces than I. If ever you find yourself in New Mexico, let us know and I'm sure we can get together and do something cool like, drink coffee. In fact, lets make it Pete's Coffee, we'll pretend we're in the Bay Area again! :-)@NativeMikeAdamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08446931065863021549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-19247999502402909802012-04-05T21:00:34.582-04:002012-04-05T21:00:34.582-04:00Thank you, Mike - for such an insightful and beaut...Thank you, Mike - for such an insightful and beautiful comment. I think I would very much like to sit down with you and Tara and have a long, long talk.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-5984849255532228272012-04-04T04:12:39.364-04:002012-04-04T04:12:39.364-04:00Today I read a Scientific America blog about bully...Today I read a Scientific America blog about bullying. I've been thinking about bullying a great deal recently and became interested as to it's origin. Bullying behavior is integral to the human psyche, in fact it is common among all mammals. Humans however, with our ability to think abstractly and to maintain ideas over long periods of time, have taken bullying to a new level, where, in extreme cases, the results are teen suicides or tragedies like that of Columbine.<br /><br />I believe that racism is bullying; it is bullying like gay bashing; it bullying like the war on women; it is bullying like that which preceded Eden Wormer's suicide in Ashland. <br /><br />Bullying is nothing more than people acting on bigotry and justifying their cruelty with the bigotry.<br /><br />My suspicion is that if Tayvon Martin's tragic death is going to make a difference, we will have to stop drawing distinctions between the kind of bullying/bigotry that killed Matthew Shepard, Trayvon Martin and Eden Wormer.<br /><br />We'll need to throw it all together in that bug ugly morass of bubbling, seething hate and try to find a way to deal with ourselves. We'll have to acknowledge that each of us is capable of perpetrating that hate, so that we know what to look out for in ourselves and so that we can extend compassion to someone who is trapped in their own bigotry and possibly help them find a way to freedom.<br /><br />The change that Trayvon's parents deserve to see is hard work and sometimes I worry that we humans aren't up the the challenge. But in the end, if we keep searching in earnest for a way to make a better world, I suspect we can't help but to meet that challenge.<br /><br />Thanks Kelly for your post!@NativeMikeAdamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08446931065863021549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-71386922081909870152012-04-01T23:49:58.529-04:002012-04-01T23:49:58.529-04:00&^)&^)esbbostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09946279220170973147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-27718238916217345542012-04-01T19:59:29.969-04:002012-04-01T19:59:29.969-04:00I have been way behind on my Google Reader, so I a...I have been way behind on my Google Reader, so I am responding embarrassingly late, but you are in my "Don't Delete No Matter How Far Behind I Get" category and this is why. This is a beautiful piece.<br /><br />I have two white sons and one with brown skin. At six, with his melting brown eyes and cheeks still full of babyhood, my youngest is no threat to anyone. However, if he looks like my husband and the world does not change, as an adult he will be able to scare grown men just by appearing as himself. He is the kind of person that rescues drowning lady bugs and cries upon meeting injured cats. <br /><br />Mikalh has taught me a great deal about race that I didn't know and one thing is that we still see it because he knew that he was "brown" the way that he knew he was a boy, by the time he was three. We are lucky to live where a Native American child does not look unusual and where I think he will be able to where a hoodie–a place where many of us don't lock our doors. <br /><br />We, too, are lucky.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08644569152748119356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-3620116014227634442012-03-28T21:05:22.855-04:002012-03-28T21:05:22.855-04:00That is so awesome, lol.That is so awesome, lol.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-38474372854871681512012-03-28T21:04:51.132-04:002012-03-28T21:04:51.132-04:00Thank you, MM. I've been sitting on it for awh...Thank you, MM. I've been sitting on it for awhile because, really, what can you say? There is no sense in it.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-64470636535247365142012-03-28T21:04:06.169-04:002012-03-28T21:04:06.169-04:00Thanks, Word Nerd. You know what kills me more tha...Thanks, Word Nerd. You know what kills me more than anything? The knowledge that the kitchen table conversation has been going on for generations. It's crazy that it's still necessary. I don't think I'm sheltered until I hear something like that and then I wonder what else I don't know.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-55708539447657719862012-03-28T21:00:55.035-04:002012-03-28T21:00:55.035-04:00Thanks, Reese. :)Thanks, Reese. :)Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-20810570887771827462012-03-28T21:00:33.412-04:002012-03-28T21:00:33.412-04:00That's because chicks rock, Boston.That's because chicks rock, Boston.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-46903547029058907562012-03-28T21:00:10.825-04:002012-03-28T21:00:10.825-04:00Thank you.Thank you.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991384996924478820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-47480820435610334012012-03-28T20:41:16.952-04:002012-03-28T20:41:16.952-04:00You are absolutely right.
There's nothing I...You are absolutely right. <br /><br />There's nothing I can add to that.<br /><br />Pearl<br /><br />p.s. Re: your blog name, I have to tell you that there was a Kentucky Fried Chicken up here that went out of business and the building reincarnated as a daycare. I've referred to it for year as Kentucky Fried Children.Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-46221298057498094062012-03-28T00:10:48.190-04:002012-03-28T00:10:48.190-04:00What a heartfelt and sensible response to somethin...What a heartfelt and sensible response to something so horrible and incomprehensible. Thank you for sharing it with us.Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-90147720823588455902012-03-26T21:47:18.412-04:002012-03-26T21:47:18.412-04:00That your heart aches for this adds one more entry...That your heart aches for this adds one more entry to the long "reasons why I like you" list.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-81939421931630209432012-03-26T13:46:44.409-04:002012-03-26T13:46:44.409-04:00"...live with open hearts and open minds...Le..."...live with open hearts and open minds...Learn to love. Learn to listen." Beautiful. <br /><br />xoReesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04708366788248325638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-86816118207268089382012-03-26T13:25:49.874-04:002012-03-26T13:25:49.874-04:00Yes. Just, yes.Yes. Just, yes.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-84574264184408678022012-03-26T10:01:28.516-04:002012-03-26T10:01:28.516-04:00I am a white male and I feel I have had several in...I am a white male and I feel I have had several insensitive stupid things happen to me, especially after three decades in the workplace. I just try to ignore it and go on with my life, trying to love and appreciate everyone equally. But so many of my favorite people are black or Hispanic, and my closest meaningful deep friendships have always been female.esbbostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09946279220170973147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722088384595765913.post-52814665301214306822012-03-26T09:42:15.047-04:002012-03-26T09:42:15.047-04:00Well said, Kelly.Well said, Kelly.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12248662505320434618noreply@blogger.com